An “active retirement” means something different to everyone. To more and more retiring baby boomers, dating is part of the retirement scene. So how is dating in retirement different than it was when you were younger? Read on for your guide of what to expect from your retirement romances.
- Go online to meet partners. Online matchmaking sites have come a long way. Today, they’re mainstream and a perfectly normal way to meet potential dates—and boomer participation on these sites has skyrocketed in recent years. But the world of online dating sites is a big one, and it can be hard to know where to post a profile to connect with potential matches. Try starting with one large dating site and one that caters specifically to one of your interests or to your age group. This should provide you with a number of options to start your active dating life.
- Ask friends to set you up. You know from your business years that there’s nothing like a referral to generate new business, no matter what “industry” we’re talking about. If you’d prefer to avoid the awkwardness of meeting someone online, ask one of your trusted friends to connect you with someone whose interests align with your own. As a nice bonus, you can meet friends of friends in low-stakes group gatherings before committing to an entire date.
- Know the risks involved. The media have reported in recent months on the increase of STDs among retirees. Keep in mind that, even if preventing pregnancy is no longer a concern, you still need to look out for your health (and that of your partner) in any romantic relationship you enter.
- Enjoy the confidence you’ve developed. Dating as a young person can be emotionally draining in part because you’re still developing your own identity during that phase of your life, and it’s easy to lose that identity in another person. Dating in retirement comes with much more freedom for many people, because they have the confidence to say yes to people who enrich their lives and say no—without feeling guilty—to those who do not.
No matter the circumstances that brought you to dating in retirement, this period of life can be a delightful one for kindling romances and establishing new, meaningful relationships. I wish you all the best!